Tuesday, November 5, 2013

I am terrible at this, I know.

So here's the deal.
1) I have been attempting to exercise on Tuesdays and Thursdays and it really cuts into the time I used to use to blog.

2) I've been called to sub about once a week for awhile now and, while that is exciting income, it really cuts into the time I used to blog.

3) There's been some other exciting things happening, like I'm about 90% certain I'm going to be teaching 2 continuing education classes for Odessa College this coming spring and we are taking the bathroom down to the studs at the end of the month and my family is coming to help, they have required a lot of work (like stretching/creating two 7-hour courses and writing proposals and creating powerpoints and I'm actually only done with one of them and the other, even though I submitted the proposal, is not actually done, and we have made several extra trips to town to get supplies and have made lists and thought out what we were doing and made sure we had enough food for extra people and...), which really cuts into the time I used to blog.

4) The new season of Bones came out on Netflix, which required I go back and rewatch a few seasons and then watch season 8 so I was all caught up and then I watched the season 9 episodes on Hulu so I'm only about an episode behind of people who watch real TV.  Watching all that TV really cut into the time I used to blog.

5) Revolution came out on Netflix, and I had only seen the first 10 episodes on Hulu before the break thing happened and then I stopped watching so I had to watch all of season 1 and then R did too and we also both saw episode 201 online so now I am being good and waiting to watch the rest on Hulu with him. But for real, watching all that TV really cut into the time I used to blog.

6) But all the time watching TV wasn't totally wasted because I did get some Christmas presents done while watching and I now have an idea for all but one person on my list and there are only 6-7 other projects I need to finish before Christmas.  But working on Christmas presents really cuts into the time I used to blog.

7) It took a lot more time and effort than I thought it would, but I finally got the video sound with the slides of a training I did so I could put it up on my training website.  And I'm going to put it up a little later today.  Working on that kind of stuff really cuts into the time I used to blog.

Honestly, nothing has really been happening that I thought was worth my time and effort to blog.  I mean, a couple things have but they aren't my story to tell, and the mundane stuff I usually write about just hasn't seemed worth spending time to write about lately.  Probably because I've had so much more important things to do like watch TV. : )

Blogging just really hasn't been a priority lately and I just haven't had that pull to write like I usually do.  And then when I do have the pull to write, something else comes up and sucks away all my time and I just never get around to blogging.  It kind of makes me sad that I have neglected to write so much, but I don't know that I would change what I have been doing!

Off to try to get stuff posted on the training site!


Thursday, October 17, 2013

Starbuck, One Year Later

So the first Sunday in October, 2012, we got a puppy.  Half lab half we-don't-know-but-have-several-theories, all black but a couple of white spots on her chest.  While I do love this dog, I tend to treat her like a dog (not in the figurative language phrase sort of way but in the way that I don't treat her like a person because she isn't one).  Robert, however, spoils her.  When he went out to buy two baby gates (to keep her contained to the utility room when she was a puppy since our fence wouldn't keep her in till R added to it and we didn't want her to be able to be in the rest of the house without one of us carefully watching), puppy food, a collar, and a leash, he also came home with a stuffed duck.  We named the dog Starbuck (from Joss Wheedon's version of Battlestar Galactica...we're dorks like that) and the duck Donald.
Exhibit A of the spoiledness.  I do not allow the dog on the couch.  Robert does.  Also, Starbuck sleeping with Donald. 
Starbuck loved that duck.  She loved it and squeezed it...until it died...
That white stuff?  That's Donald's innards. And this picture is fuzzy because she is shaking Donald.
Donald now looks like this:
Could I have cropped out the ironing board leg and most of the hideousness of the carpet in my craft room?  Yes.  But you should know by now not to come here for the quality of pictures.

So, because he is such a dog-spoiler, Robert got Starbuck a belated birthday present today.  I dubbed her "Daisy."
So sorry there's not a picture of fresh new Daisy...I didn't think that far ahead.
Daisy has been carried all over the house and has already lost a leg and some "feathers."
Daisy and her leg.

Daisy losing some "feathers."

Starbuck "loving" on Daisy.
I put Donald out and she was having trouble deciding between them.  But Daisy won.

Poor Daisy.
At least she doesn't have milk teeth anymore?

In an effort to come full circle, here is Starbuck sleeping with both Daisy and Donald today:
Notice that, as I am in charge, she is sleeping on the floor.  Because she is a dog.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Where Did September Go?

Remember when I went to train at the very end of August and when I landed and turned on my phone, I got notice that my grandmother's husband had died?

Well, we got back from Disney on a Sunday and that next day I got word that my great-grandmother had died.

So between my end of August trip, my Disney trip (which I do plan to share about in two different posts that I have floating in my head), and two trips to South Texas for funerals, I only had a few days here and there at home.  I missed 3 Sundays in a row at church!  On the few days I did have at home, I had several trips to town (nearly always an all day experience) for doctor's appointments, grocery shopping, etc.  And I was able to sub a couple days last week.  Though technically after all the out of town and not in September, I'm lumping it together in my nothing-got-done-at-home month.

Needless to say, I had a lot of cleaning, etc. to catch up on when I was finally home for awhile!  The house is finally whipped back into shape and the laundry is beginning to be caught up.  AND we are starting some work on projects around the house!

Once I get all my paint sample squares painted, I'll try to take some pictures and post them.  We plan to paint and remodel the bathroom next month along with getting few other minor things done as we go.  It's going to be a huge amount of work, but we are going to remove all the trim and doors in the house, strip it, repaint it, and hang it all back up.  It all just has so many layers of paint that the detail doesn't show anymore.  Eventually, we plan to sand and refinish the hardwoods (when we get started on this, we will remove the carpet in the kitchen; we can't remove it before though because it is glued; the kitchen is going to take A LOT of sanding).  If at all monetarily possible after all that, we'd really like to replace the flooring in the "downstair" area.  I say that because it's just one stair down into the two back rooms that were added in the 50s.  It's concrete under the flooring so we would actually have to purchase flooring to put down and by the time we get to that, our designated fund will be long gone.  We will have to see what the church is willing to do!  I'm excited though, to have started on the projects and to be making any sort of progress!

I have supper started and two more things on my to-do-list left for the day, so I'm off to make sure I actually get caught up around here!


Thursday, October 3, 2013

Well, Friends...

I went to Disney.  Then I came home and life went crazy for a while.  My great-grandmother died and going to the funeral involved going to deep South Texas.  I actually got called to sub at our local high school two days this week (there's a long story for the "finally" part).  We had to go to town one day this week.  And the house is still a wreck from all the time I've been gone.  But Disney was so much fun and I really wanna post about that and some other things soon.  But right now I have so much to do!!!


Monday, September 9, 2013

Almost There!


is happening!!!

And I was so excited for it up until yesterday evening.  When I realized how much I needed and, on top of that, wanted to do before Disney.  And now I'm a little apprehensive about getting it all done.  Most of the deadlines are self-imposed, though, so if I don't make them, oh, well.

One of the "need to do"s is to pack.  (Well, first do laundry, then pack...)  So, friends that have been to Disney World before, I'm thinking I'll need a "day outfit" that's cool (temperature wise) for walking around the park all day in the heat and then an "evening outfit" (which sound super fancy, but that's not my intent) that is maybe slightly dressier to change into when I'm hot and sweaty before we go eat supper.  Thoughts?

Also I know I'm taking my new computer cuz Momma and I have some brainstorming to do and I was also thinking about a couple decks of cards just for fun.  Any other ideas?  That fit into the one carry on, one checked bag and backpack I'll be taking? (Southwest has 2 bags fly free, but I only have 1 Disney tag thingy so I can only check one bag.)

And I think it goes without saying, consider this the last post until post-Disney recovery.  : )


Tuesday, September 3, 2013

I wrote on the other blog today...


And don't have the time or brain power to write here, too!  Go check it out!


Thursday, August 29, 2013


Been gone for forever, I know.  Here's an explanation and really long post to hopefully make up for it.  Also, I wrote most of it on the way home last Tuesday, so the formatting may look little different since I'm copying and pasting from Word.

Wow!  I was anxiously waiting for August so life would slow down but August is almost over and I’ve got my Disney trip in September and in October we have Robert’s birthday (plus we want to re-do our bathroom at some point this fall) and November is Thanksgiving and December is Christmas and I hope to be training with my new business and traveling for that so slowing down doesn’t seem to be in the future…
To recap this last week: Late last Tuesday, I flew in an airplane (!) to be early for my training at W.E.E. School, visit some friends, set up for the training (extra set up because we recorded it), and teach the training.  (Go to branalyndailey.com to see the post about the training.)   Then I flew back Saturday evening.  When the plane landed and I turned on my phone, I got a text message that my grandma’s husband had died.  So we went home, cooked supper, and I went to bed.  Sunday we went to church, I unpacked, did laundry, and did some cleaning.  Monday I did some more laundry and cleaning, re-packed (Robert worked a half day) and headed out for the funeral.  We stayed with my aunt Monday night, Tuesday attended the funeral, graveside, and meal, then stretched our legs at the ranch for a little while before driving back to West Texas.  I think I’ve racked up more miles this summer than all of last year!
And now, I have pretty much an entire week to catch up on.  One of the things to do this week is go grocery shopping.  I’ve had a couple people question this (in real life, not here) because I go once a month and spend $270-290 for all our groceries and HEBish items for the month.  Mostly, they don’t believe me and then they want to know how I do it.  Honestly, there are lots of blogs and Pinned ideas out there, and I did not reinvent the wheel.  But I will tell you what I do. 
First, let me explain why we shop once a month and endeavor to spend so little money.  We live in a parsonage with utilities paid, we own both our cars outright, have very little debt (and what we have we are working down), and we have a set budget that’s mostly cash operated, so because of how our lives are right now, there’s not many corners that can be cut.  Groceries, however, is one place we can save some money.  We allot $270 for groceries (including household stuff) but we often end up stealing $20 from eat out or gas money.  We do grocery shopping and “big city” errands once a month and it is a long, exhausting, often frustrating day but then we are done for the month!  Since we do pretty much all of our shopping in the Big City near us, both for lower prices and more availability, we spend way less gas plus the grocery savings when we do it all at once. 
Second, we pretty much eat all our meals at home, R comes home for lunch, and our eat out money is $50, including the lunch we eat in town when we shop, the Sonic drinks we get every Wednesday during Happy Hour, and any eating out we do until the next month.  So really, this leaves very little room to eat out!  
Third, let me say that it took quite a few months for me to get this right and there have been some emergency trips to the (expensive, limited selection, kinda gross) grocery store in town, but for the most part, after some practice I think we have this down.  This method does require some discipline and sometimes creativity, especially near the end of the month, when we have to deal with what we have and not go running to the store for something.  You may prefer the Pinterest ideas that involve major meal planning but I just cannot bring myself to quite do that.  I like planning and organization, but I cannot seem to plan an entire month’s meals at one time.  I feel like it puts me too much in a box and how will I know what I will feel like cooking/eating on any particular day a whole month in advance?!  The bloggers I’ve read have said they like planning because it takes the stress to have it already decided.  I get stressed out trying to plan that much so the following is my method!
The prep: Like I said, I don’t sit down and plan out our meals for an entire month.  But I do have a general idea of how many meals we will be eating at home that month, and then I have a few basic meals we repeat most months.  If we are doing something new or something different, I make sure the ingredients are on my list.  I especially think through any company or meals I may need to take to someone or somewhere for whatever reason.  Then I buy ingredients that can pretty much be made into most any meal.  I use a free app on my phone called Grocery IQ.  I love this app because I can look at my past lists and use them to jump off each month.    It also lets you enter specific information like grade of meat or volume of milk, etc.  and you can enter the amount you want to buy.  (This is awesome both for knowing what I need before I leave the house and because at the store I enter the prices of each thing as I put it in the cart so it keeps a running total for me.)  The last cool thing about Grocery IQ is it helps you find coupons for the things on your list.  I do not go searching for coupons anywhere else and there are many months that I have no coupons at all before walking into the store.  (We shop at HEB so there is usually at least one item that we buy that ends up having an in store coupon.)  I try to use coupons where I can and I do buy store brand for nearly all of our items (certainly for all the “staples”) but I do not go out of my way or scour the internet or even get a paper.  Also, since we go to town the last Friday of the month, I cannot shop based on sales, etc.  I make my list at home and I shop my list unless there is some glaringly awesome sale at the store.  Lastly, I don’t buy many readymade or quick to make items.  My system works because I buy ingredients.  Nearly everything we eat is made from scratch, which is (usually) healthier, but I mostly do it for the cost savings.  Usually, since we will be going to the store on a Friday, I spend a few hours the Thursday before making my list, cleaning out the refrigerator (we eat a lot of leftovers and we usually finish them and we only buy things for one month so, usually, by the end of the month, the larder is looking pretty bare.  But it does help to have everything out before we get home with so much stuff the next day.), making my list, finding and printing any coupons, making sure the bags (I’ll explain this better in a minute), cooler, cooler bag, and collapsible box thingy are in the car, deciding what stores we will visit the next day and making sure I have the list for each store.  (The last part is because we run all our errands that day.  For example, tomorrow, we will go to the bank, go to Tractor Supply for dog food, go to Home Depot for a sheet of plywood-so we will have to take R’s truck to town, and go to HEB.  My HEB list will be on Grocery IQ. Make sense?)
My grocery list usually looks something like this:
1.      Beverages:
a.      Coke (enough cans that Branalyn has one for each morning that month…does it help if I claim it’s my only vice?)
b.      Dr. Pepper (not every month, only when R wants some and he goes through it slow)
2.      Bread
a.      Large white sandwich bread (1 package, we use it for toast or sandwiches and we haven’t had a problem with it lasting the whole month, if we want bread to go with the meal, I bake it from scratch)
3.      Breakfast and Cereal
a.      Whichever cereal R wants for that month.  A box a month is about normal.
b.      Pop-Tarts (ok, I have two vices?)
4.      Canned Good and Soups
a.      Tomato Sauce (29 oz. cans, usually 3, these can be made into just about any Italian meal, are cheaper than the “spaghetti sauce” and, as long as you season your meat, they taste better in my opinion)
b.      Tomato Sauce (8 oz. cans, 1 or 2, I generally get these flavored with garlic and use them for making pizza or to add when I need sauce to stretch just a little farther)
c.      Log Cabin Syrup (I think we’ve bought this once, maybe twice in a year, a little goes a long way, but I think it’s worth buying name brand and we do have breakfast for supper about once a week, though not always with pancakes)
d.      Olive Oil (I’ve tried several grades and really do like the extra virgin the best, even though its more expensive, I buy store brand unless there’s a coupon that makes name brand cheaper)
e.      Rotel (rarely, usually to make queso in colder months)
f.       Tea (a big box, R drinks this A LOT, but we get the bags and he makes his own and it ends up being extremely cheap)
g.      Vinegar (I usually buy a gallon a month, I keep one gallon that usually lasts for a very long time in my baking items and then I generally have one gallon under the sink to use when I clean or make cleaning solutions and one extra in the big pantry, its cheap, it cleans great and we go through quite a bit)
5.      Cleaning and Home
a.      Borax (every other month, maybe every three, used to make laundry detergent and in cleaning)
b.      Super Washing Soda (same as Borax)
c.      Dishwasher detergent (OK, so I’ve tried several times and I just do not like any homemade version of this…)
d.      Charcoal (we grill at least twice a month and buy it most months)
e.      Lighter fluid, see above
f.       Dawn soap (I get a HUGE thing every 3-4 months and use it for making my own cleaning solutions and on its own)
g.      Downy Unstoppables (for homemade febreeze and laundry detergent)
h.      Jet Dry (our dishwasher needs it, but does go through it slowly, one tiny bottle lasts at least a month and we run the dishwasher daily)
i.       LemiShine (our dishwasher needs this stuff with the way our water is, I usually have to buy at least 2 of those refill bags.  And this stuff ain’t cheap.  But it’s one of those things we just have to have.)
j.       Oxygen Bleach (same as borax)
k.      Shout color catcher (I buy these rarely,  but I like to always have some on hand)
l.       Swiffer Dusters (or store brand when I can find it, I have bad dust allergies and using these means I can actually dust without getting sick or having an asthma attack so I cough up the money to buy them, I do not buy them every month, usually every 3 months or so  because I generally use one per week)
m.    Toilet bowl cleaner, hardwood floor cleaner, scrub sponges as needed and its rare
n.      Baggies (we keep a stock of freezer gallons and quarts for meat freezing and storage gallons and quarts, though I try to use reusable containers instead of baggies when I’m not freezing something)
6.      Condiments
a.      Honey (rarely, a little goes a long way!)
b.      Ketchup (every 2-3 months)
c.      Salsa (this is on R’s time table, I’m not sure how often we buy it but I know I don’t eat it!)
d.      Jam or Jelly (maybe every 3 months, for R to use on sandwiches or biscuits)
7.      Dairy
a.      Cheddar Cheese (usually a small bag)
b.      Butter (2-4, depending on how much baking I think I’ll do and how much is at home, it freezes nicely)
c.      Heavy whipping cream (for baking or ice cream making, any leftover gets turned into butter before it goes bad)
d.      Italian cheese (lasagna and pizza, small bag, not every month)
e.      Mozzarella cheese (same)
f.       Provolone cheese (same)
g.      Parmesan cheese (same)
h.      Milk (2%, 1 gallon times 4-5, R drinks this stuff A LOT)
i.       Milk (Whole, ½ gallon times 1, maybe 2 if I have none in the freezer, since R drinks so much milk, I have to buy a separate fat content just so he won’t drink my baking milk, also, I often use it for ice cream, in which case I need the whole fat content, I buy it in half gallons because I do not go through it very fast and whole gallons tend to go bad before I can use them up)
j.       Sour cream (if I’m going to make sugar cookies… but it’s better to not have this in the house because we only ever use it to make cookies and I have an unhealthy addiction to them when I do make them)
8.      Deli case
a.      Bacon (though we buy it off the shelf and not deli cut, this is just how its categorized on Grocery IQ, we usually get a medium size pack that costs around $10 and divide it into 8ths at home)
b.      Pepperoni (again, prepackaged, and only if we are out and planning pizza that month)
9.      Frozen food
a.      Ice (but at the end from the front, every month, for the ride home)
b.      Pizza (if we have no leftovers to eat that night because we do not cook on shopping day!)
c.      Grape juice (you may be wondering about fresh fruits and veggies and our once a month shopping, we eat them at the beginning of the month, juice and canned take us through the rest, we do try to be healthy…)
10.   Fruits and Veggies (this really depends on the time of year, also, see grape juice above, we are also attempting to garden for some of this…)
a.      Apples (no more than 4, they’ll go bad before we can finish them)
b.      Garlic (every month or every other, we use it pretty much anytime we cook meat)
c.      Potatoes (2-4, they last a good part of the month, but it depends)
d.      Strawberries (when in season, again, only one package because, as much as I love strawberries, they’ll go bad before I can eat too many)
e.       Yellow squash (seasonal, 1-2, again with the going bad)
11.   Grains, Pasta, Sides
a.      Lasagna noodles (one package per time I anticipate lasagna, usually 0-2 per month)
b.      Macaroni and Cheese (usually 1-3 packages, one of the few things we buy somewhat ready-made, we generally have one supper a month that we use it for, the other boxes are for lunches if we get it)
c.      Noodles (usually I get a package of “fun” noodles-like bowtie or shell-and a big package of spaghetti noodles)
12.   Meat
a.      Chicken (a big package we slip up)
b.      Fajita Meat (sometimes treat)
c.      Steak (even rarer treat)
d.      Hamburger meat (aka ground beef, we like to get 90/10 but usually the budget dictates we settle for 80/20, I get at least 5 lbs., maybe 6 or 7)
13.   Paper Goods
a.      Toilet paper (a huge package to last the month, HEB brand actually is nice but we used to be snobs about this)
b.      Paper towels (HEB brand is good but you have to be careful and get the right ones)
c.      Tissues (this may seem silly, but the Kleenex Cool Care are the best tissues ever and I keep a box in every room and in my car because I have allergies!  They don’t go bad if you don’t use them, but they are awesome to have when you do need them.  I usually end up buying 1-3 boxes per month)
14.   Personal Care and Pharmacy (this is another section with some variance, but here’s what we get most months)
a.      R’s deodorant
b.      B’s deodorant (usually more like every other month, I guess I don’t lay it on as thick!)
c.      R’s body wash
d.      B’s body wash
e.      Floss (more like every 3-4 months)
f.       Toothpaste
g.      Toothbrushes (2 every other month)
h.      Epsom salt
i.       R’s shampoo (every other usually)
j.       B’s shampoo
k.      B’s conditioner
l.       Ivory Soap bars (laundry detergent, see Borax above)
m.    Prevacid (30 pills)
n.      Razor blades (more like every 2-3)
o.     Cotton balls (every 2-3)
p.      Cotton rounds (every other)
q.      Zyrtec (60 pills)
15.   Snack Foods
a.      Hershey’s syrup (big bottles, 4-5, R drinks chocolate in his milk)
b.      Popcorn (loose popcorn, every other or so)
c.      Popcorn oil (every other or so)
d.      Popcorn salt (every other or so)
e.      Tortilla chips (sometimes)
16.   Spices and Baking (we buy A LOT on this aisle, but most of what we buy here is extremely cheap, remember, I’m planning to make things from scratch-bread, rolls, breadsticks, biscuits, pancakes, tortillas, cookies, ice cream, cake, etc.-also, my trick is to make my own mixes for many of these things)
a.      All Purpose Flour (1 or 2 5 lb. bags)
b.      Bread Flour (same)
c.      Baking soda (used for cleaning and baking, I do this like I do vinegar above)
d.      Baking powder (usually a can every other month)
e.      Eagle Brand (when I am planning ice cream)
f.       Yeast (a jar for the fridge every 3 months or so)
g.      Pizza yeast (a 3 thingy every 2-3 months, one package per pizza)
h.      Instant dry milk (I keep it on hand for baking when R has drank all the milk, also, there’s some mixes I make that call for it, but it’s an every other month thing at most)
i.       Chocolate chips (when planning chocolate chip cookies, I do like to keep them on hand)
j.       Powdered sugar (as needed, I like to keep it on hand)
k.      Sea salt (I recently discovered the iodized version and that is the salt I prefer, as needed)
l.       Shortening (as needed, every 2-3 months depending on how much I baked/am planning to bake)
m.    Sugar (1-2 4 lb. bags, R uses quite a bit for his tea and I use it for baking)
n.      Grub Rub (greatest seasoning ever)
o.     Italian Seasoning, Pepper, Garlic Powder, Onion Powder, Cinnamon, as needed
At the store:
OK, so we both go to town on these crazy errands-and-grocery-shopping-days and we run all the other errands first so we don’t work our cooler too hard before we get home (when it’s not so dang hot we sometimes change this) and then we go to HEB.  We each take a basket and one of us will end up with cold items and the other will end up with room temperature items.  We attempt to keep like things together as we shop and put them on the conveyer together at the end, but if there’s an actual bagger (i.e., not one of us) then this is usually in vain.  (I really don’t understand why it’s a difficult concept for the store’s employed bagger, but whatever…)  Another cool feature of the Grocery IQ app is that I can tell it which aisle everything is on, which makes for a much easier trip to the store.  We do go down nearly every aisle and get what we need, trying to get the cold stuff last.  Then we check out.  Like I said, we attempt to keep like things together on the conveyer and if it’s a store employed bagger we make sure to tell them we want cold things in plastic HEB bags (because these items will end up in the cooler), meat separate (it will end up in the cooler bag and EWW!), and everything else please put in the bags we bring in (they hold more, things fit better in our car this way, and they are easier to take into the house-also, when we do the bagging, we can bag by where things get put away which makes things at home so much easier).  Usually they end up having to put some room temp things in HEB sacks (either because we don’t have enough bags or because they do something inane like put two boxes of Kleenex in one huge bag that we brought in…) and we put those in the collapsible crate in the car.  Oh, and we always add a bag of ice when we check out.
At the car:
We put all cold items, except meat, into our cooler.  It’s not a very large cooler and, with all the milk we buy, we really could use a slightly bigger one, but it works.  We put the meat in a cooler bag from SAMs and we split the ice between the cooler and cooler bag.  Then we pile in the bags we brought in and put loose items and HEB bagged items into the crate.  At this point, we usually rejoice we are done, get gas, and go home. J
On the way home:
We stop and buy eggs from our friend who raises chickens.
At home:
R takes the cooler and I take the cooler bag and we put them in the middle of our kitchen floor.  Then I unpack the cold things while he unloads the rest of the stuff into the middle of the utility room floor.  (He will also put things straight in their home if it’s something outside like dog food or a tool he bought, etc.)  I will immediately freeze packages of cheese, butter, and juice concentrate.  Milk and meat I will put into the fridge for right then.  Then I unpack the other groceries while R drains and cleans out the cooler and cooler bag.  We have a piece of furniture we use as a small pantry in the kitchen where baking items go.  We have a large piece of furniture we use as a large pantry in the utility room where extra baking items and all other cooking and cleaning items go.  And we have a rather odd but large closet in our bathroom, so bathroom items can go in there.  While one day, I’d like to get to the point where I can have a little bit of a stock pile, right now we usually buy just enough to get through the month.  Right after shopping, things are nearly overflowing but, as I said before, by the end of the month, the larders are pretty bare.  Once Robert has the coolers clean and out of the way, he will pour a little out of each gallon of milk (either into an almost empty gallon or into a cup to be drank later that night) and freeze the milk.  Then he will separate the meat into meal sized portions and bag, label, and freeze that.  Sometimes I will do this with the cheese, also, but it’s usually not any more expensive to buy already smaller bags.  Bacon gets cut in half, then separated into fourths (so there’s actually 8 portions in the end), hamburger meat gets separated into 1ish pound portions, chicken gets separated into 3-4 pieces per bag, and any steak or fajita meat (rarer treats) gets separated into meal sized portions as well.
Our general month looks like this:
Spaghetti twice, eaten for lunch as leftovers till it’s gone
Lasagna once, eaten for lunch as leftovers till it’s gone
Breakfast for lunch or supper a couple times a week, usually with homemade tortillas, sometimes with homemade biscuits, rarely with homemade pancakes
One or two “daddy suppers”-ground beef and mac and cheese, eaten for lunch as leftovers till it’s gone
Chicken on the grill once or twice, with squash or canned veggies and made from scratch bread, leftovers for lunch
Chicken in the oven once or twice, with some type of potato side and/or canned veggies and made from scratch bread, leftovers for lunch
Hamburgers no more than once a month-not enough leftovers!
If we have fajitas or steak, it’d take the place of one chicken or breakfast meal.  Again with the not enough leftovers.

The rest of this is where the discipline and creativity comes in.  I generally refuse to go to the store (and all our grocery money is gone anyways) to buy things unless there is a true surprise or emergency (like last month I got sick and we bought some cough medicine and tissues, but that was medicine money without even having to justify it) so sometimes, by the end of the month, our meals are a little silly.  Like breakfast for supper for a whole week.  But we have never gone hungry and we stick to our budget!

Clear as mud? : )


Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Things I Was Planning To Say...

This will be more of a numbered list than real paragraphs because Saturday night my nose turned into a leaky faucet and it's just gotten worse since.  My sleep last night was disrupted, at best, because post nasal drip is the bane of my existence.

1. I have been through three boxes of Delightful Tissues since Saturday night.  They are seriously the best tissues ever.

2. Last week I finished the training and practiced it once through.  I plan to practice it again today and then I should be good until next Thursday, when I'll set up and practice again, and Friday when I present it!

3. Please pray I am better by next Tuesday when I have to fly by myself.  It will be the first time I've flown by myself and the second time I've ever flown.  And that I'm even better by next Thursday when I have to talk for 3 hours almost straight.

4. I made a dress and a skirt, each with a grand total of 3 seams and no hemming (knits), though I may go back and do some sort of wrapped hem on the dress.

5. I got a new laptop (though I'm typing this with the old).  The old one seems to still be holding up and living, but it was scarily not recognizing the power cord for about two days there and it has a grand total of 5 minutes of battery life.  The new computer is tiny but powerful, so I named it Sting.  (Sting was Bilbo and Frodo's sword.  They were hobbits and therefore small.  The "sword" was actually a dagger or knife by normal standards.  But it was very sharp and powerful and had special properties.  Really, the name just shows I'm a dork and that "Mighty Mouse" was too run of the mill for me.  But it's funny and makes sense if you know what I'm referencing...) It has a touch screen and the only complaint I have is that I wish the screen folded all the way back so I could hold it like a tablet, also.

6. I also made a case for my laptop.  I cut up an old yoga mat and some crib bumper batting to pad it.  I think it turned out well but I did have to rip way too many seams and my first attempt ended up in the trash.  (My mother in law gave me the bumper batting to use for the fabric baby books I made for my nephews one year at Christmas.  It's a convenient size for quite a lot of things.  But I don't endorse bumper pads because suffocation.)

7. Then I decided my dress I made was just shoulder to floor RED! so I needed some sort of broach to break it up.  So I made 4 yesterday.  They were really easy and I got carried away.  But now I'm contemplating what to use to actually make them wearable.  They have to be detachable because they will probably disintegrate in the wash.  My original idea was safety pins but now I'm thinking that would just tear the knit dress or shirt I would wear it on.  Magnets seem like a good idea, but I'm not totally sure how to execute that and I don't think I currently have any magnets to use.

8.  I had an infertility related post in my head about how stupid the government is (one of the routes we are looking into is legal risk foster-to-adopt) and also about things that people say that are unintentionally hurtful.  But my head is too full of snot to remember what I was going to say and I have no desire to bring myself anywhere near tears until this head cold is cleared up.

9. Thursday night is a Girl's Night for the youth girls.  We are going to make our own pizzas, talk about modesty, and play games.  I tried to be as uninvolved in the planning as possible (letting a youth girl take the lead) but I have a feeling since she has started band 2-a-days, I'm gonna be way more in charge of prepping and the night than I wanted to be.

10. Also, wasn't August supposed to slow down?!  It has, but not quite enough for me...

That's all of the randomness I can capture from my fuzzy brain today.  One day, I'll get back to writing real posts.  I hope.


Tuesday, August 6, 2013

I Hope You Can Stand the Excitement

Really, nothing exciting has been happening.  The couple things that have happened, I don't wanna talk about here.
I am still woefully behind on laundry.
I've developed an unhealthy love of these cookies but finished them yesterday and have held off from making more.
I've been trying to create a front bodice sloper and am frustrated but not giving up.
When it's done, and the back, too, I'm gonna make a shirt like this.
I've been working on the Child Development in the Bible Training so I'll be ready for my first booked gig.
I discovered this morning, while looking for new and exciting PowerPoint Templates, a "design set" that basically can be used to make all my business stuff look the same.  It's pretty cool and I spent way too long downloading and then renaming everything.
Also, I didn't know I had Publisher on my computer until this morning and the downloads, which is exciting.  I feel I should've known something like that...
The garbage truck picking up the dumpsters in the ally sounds like that monster/machine thing on Lost.

Craigslist has failed me so far in my search for a filing cabinet.
That's all the mundane things I can think of.
Let's hope this writers block goes away soon because its affecting my training making.

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Just Because It's Thursday

Really, I'm posting because 1) it's Thursday, so it was on my to-do list for the day and 2) the other things on  my to-do list require me to get up from the computer and do laundry and prep for the store tomorrow and dig out all manner of random documents to copy because the government wants them.

On those lines, anybody have a skinny, 2-drawer filing cabinet with a key that we could have/buy on the cheap?  I will begin looking on Craigslist later but the though just occurred to me.
Like this:

not this:

I clarify because we had some like the bottom picture at work and that's not what I'm talking about.  I don't need that much storage and I don't want to find room for something that wide.


I still haven't folded a single load of laundry even though I've done more loads so its slowing piling up.  Sadly, there's even more to do.  Like a lot more.  So I'm not really sure why I'm wasting time here.


Tuesday, July 30, 2013

I Am DONE With Summer!

The entirety of my life, summer has been a lovely time of slower paced, more relaxed goodness.  I mean its like that during school, even when you add in some camps.  It was like that in college, even though I did 11 hours one summer, a wedding and 6 hours the next, and a job and 6 the last.  Summer classes themselves were always more relaxed than school year classes. It was like that working in childcare, even though we were year-round.  Summer was just fewer kids, fewer teachers, less of a definite schedule, more relaxed.  I mean, there are stressful days, for instance when it's your first day opening on your own as assistant director and the power is out in half the building and none of the a/cs are working and you have to wait for the city to open to tell them and they say they'll have to shut down all the power and tear open your parking lot to fix it and so you have to call every single parent and have them come get their kids or tell them they can't bring their kids because no electricity means no email and also you have to use your cell phone.  (Just go with that wreck of a sentence.)

My point is, even though it's usually hot enough to fry an egg on the cement, I usually enjoy the slow-paced-ness of summer.  But this summer didn't seem to get the memo.  I am currently in recover mode from the weeks I've been gone.  July has been like this:
July 4-14 I was on vacation and then helping at the TBCWEA's State Conference, surprise crashing with my cousins, and riding home with a stranger (long story there).
July 14-18 Attempting to recover physically and in the house (Robert was home for quite a few days when I was still gone.) while maintaining some semblance of a normal schedule and packing for camp.
July 19-20 Attending classes in the big city (another long story to be told another day).
July 21 Missing a class because we went to church and then left at 2 for camp.
July 21-26 Camp.  It was dirty and the food wasn't great and I think I got a spider bite, but it was fun.  Exhausting, but fun.
July 27 Attending another all-day class in the big city.
July 28 Got up early, packed a lunch, went to church, did the stuff I thought someone was doing for me while I was at camp but they didn't, winged a Sunday School lesson because the week before camp I used the last one in my book and I didn't exactly have time to find another curriculum, arranged for someone to wrap everything up in the sound booth because we had to leave exactly at noon, cut out of church exactly at noon, drove back to the big city for the last class.  The scheduling was a disaster and we ended up having extra time to kill before the class and it was just a big mess but it's done.
July 29 Resting, doing a whole lot of nothing, unloading a load of dishes (it barely made a dent), unpacking, putting things away all over the house, sorting camp laundry, washing and drying 4 loads.  I calculate about 7 loads left.  Not including the clothes we will dirty between now and those 7 being finished.  Or folding and putting away any of the laundry.  And I did an online class for the same I'm-not-ready-to-tell-ya'll-yet reason.  I've got 4 more of those.  And to make up for the one I missed because I couldn't be at it and camp at the same time.
July 30/Today I have a doctor's appointment at 1:30 because I'm pretty sure somewhere along the way I picked up an ear infection and I've been trying to ignore it but it hasn't gone away.  I've also started another load of laundry.

I'm so excited about how blank the August calendar is.


Thursday, July 25, 2013

Mother's Day, pt. 7

Part of me wants to hold out for part 7 being the post where I tell you how we got a baby because seven, Biblical numbers and all.  But that would be cheating part of the story.

Here's something I wrote a couple weeks after we had the biopsy results (with a little editing):

Anyways, our whole conversation led to this craziness in my head:

He's feeling discouraged and ready to give up.

I'm feeling discouraged but not ready to give up.

But I am in full retreat mode.

I feel like I fought a huge battle, took many casualties, got cut off from my supply line, and now I'm a little lost.

So, I'm in full retreat, trying to find my supply line, reinforcements, a safe place to rest, whatever will help me fight the next battle.

Because there will be a next battle.  That's what is most draining (for me and at this moment) about infertility.  There's no "fast" or "easy" way to go about having a baby now.  It's a battle every step of the way. 

I know that even when a child is conceived in the way God planned (which leads me to another thought... I wonder if Eve had any idea how far reaching her curse would be.  When God said childbearing would be painful from them on, did she know conceiving would be included? She did have to deal with one child killing another though...), everything is far from guaranteed to go well.  But it still makes me mad that
1 we paid for birth control for three years, one year of which I dealt with terrible side effects
2 for other people it is incredibly easy
3 for us it's not
4 we didn't know this 5 years ago.  I still would've married R, but I think we would have done a few things differently. 

I'm tired.  And I'm tired of fighting.  And I want to give up.  But I won't.  I will retreat, I will rest, then I will resupply, I will reconvene my troops, and I will re-enter the battle.  But I will never lay down arms.  (You'll have to pry them from my cold, dead hands!) 

So, I did retreat.  I took a good four months pretending infertility didn't exist.  Hiding out even when I was with people who loved me.  And then we came up with a plan.  A plan that made/makes perfect sense.  It takes into account what I want and what R is OK with and we made a budget and a plan

And now, it seems that plan could change. 

 We are still on the fence.  

We have narrowed down our choices from two to... a more specific two.  

I really don't know when part 8 will come out.  I know there will be a part 8.  I hold onto that with every fiber of my being.  To continue my analogy, we are still strategizing.  Counting our supplies.  Deciding where we stand and which way would be the best mode of attack.  My heart is torn  in both directions.  So we are trying to take it one blind step at a time and trust God will lead us.  That's hard.


Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Mother's Day, pt. 6

It's hard for me to believe that, while we are still living this story, the details and chronology of it are already hard for me to keep straight.  That's part of why I decided to lay this bare on the blog.  Also, because people have already reached out in love and in commiserating grief.  Thank you.  

Here's where things start to move pretty fast.

As I was working a job that I absolutely loved and would do until I had babies to stay home with if 8 hours wasn't a ridiculously long commute, R was working a part-time power-washing job and looking for a ministerial job.  Because of some past events, I was a little reluctant but, deep down, I knew I was just fighting God's will.  (And if I stopped fighting, maybe I'd get a baby!)

Long story short (you are all laughing hysterically now), we moved to Podunk, West Texas.  R became Youth Minister at the First Baptist Church here.  He moved the beginning of August and I moved the beginning of September.  Sometime soon after I got here, we went to see a new Urologist.  Because we were eight hours from the old one.

He looked at the files and previous tests and said the next step is to do a biopsy.

A few months and about $3000 later (we have started a new Dave Ramsey snowball now and are down to one medical bill, student loans, and some savings! but we really don't worry too much about those pesky student loans right now...), the week before Thanksgiving, we found out that R is missing some cells that help produce the sperm.

And just like that we are down to two choices:

Sperm Donation



I went through some real anger about this.  I had given up a lot to move out here.  I had followed God's will and my husband's leading.  I did the right thing.  We were finally able to afford for me to stay home. We had great insurance benefits.  Where was my reward?! Where was my baby?!

One last part in the planned part of this series is coming soon.  But, like I said, we are still living this story.


Thursday, July 18, 2013

Mother's Day, pt. 5

We left off where I began to accept we were probably infertile.  

For a year, things went on about the same. 







I got promoted at work.  R did too.  We had everything but one credit card and our student loans paid off.  We had a sizable amount paid.  The new passion became buying a house. 

That next Christmas, we had a plan.  R was going to start a new job (less hours{by which I mean 40 rather than 60}, similar pay, benefits, weekends and holidays off) and we were going to buy a house (that needed a TON of work) and, since he would get benefits at his new job, if we had kids and we could get the finances in order, I could stay at home.  Things were going to fall into place.  This time, we had it figured out.


Through the politics that is the school system and the budget cuts made that year, R was out of a job before he started.

But after he left the old one.

Major decision: beg for old job back or look for a new one?

We decided he should look for a new one.

He got a part time job power-washing for some church friends and, while the hours sucked, with our finances finally in order, it worked.  He asked me if he could apply for ministry jobs.  I agreed but only for ones in Texas.  (You know, to stay close to family.  Did ya'll know Texas is a BIG state? For instance, one can live 8 hours {if you don't stop, mostly on the interstate, legal speeds upwards of 70 mph most of the way} from family and still live in the same state...) 

Somewhere in all this, R went to the doctor because he started having panic attacks (gee, why ever might that be?).  While he was there, he told the doctor about the fact that we were having trouble conceiving.  He came home and announced he was having a test done to determine fertility.  Part of me didn't want to know.  Most of me knew that knowing was the first step to moving forward.  

Sitting here at this desk, over a year later, I cannot describe the night I came home and R had the test results. 

No sperm.

At all.

Come back for more testing.

My world fell apart.  

But it was still a very private fall.  

Few knew.  

The sadness, resentment, fear, and bittersweet hope all got stronger.

More testing sent us to a Urologist.

Who ordered more testing.

Still no sperm.


The dirty word.

There was really nothing more to know about it at this point and we just tried to absorb the hit while continuing with our lives.

We "came out" to our Sunday School group and slowly to our extended families.  

People were supportive and tried to say the right things.  

There are no right things to say.

Oddly, it wasn't the people who had experienced infertility that were the most comforting, but the ones who had experienced the death of a child (miscarriage, still birth, later in life). 

By now, RR was well into a pregnancy.  The Sunday School group had morphed to where we were the only ones without a baby. People were on their second and third children. My friends from high school and college were having babies.  Each announcement got harder and harder to hear.  Each "happy face" got harder and harder to put on.

I once threw my phone across the kitchen when I saw a picture of a high school friend's newborn.  (The second the phone left my hand, I regretted it.  It landed face down and I was scared to pick it up for a minute.  Thank you God for covering my in my stupidity and temper tantrum and for giving me the foresight to buy an Otter Box.)

Honestly, how I feel is dependent on so many factors that sometimes I don't even know what will make me sad/mad/smad.  Infertility truly is its own kind of grief.   There are still more twists and turns to our story, and I'm not done living it.  Look for part 6 soon.